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Saudi female solo travelers won’t be telling you this!

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After 3 months of solo traveling, I was finally reunited with my friends. They started to ask me all kinds of questions but one was so deep that I kept thinking about even after the whole talk was over.

“What if you married someone who is gonna stop you from traveling on your own?” Asked one of my friend while smiling cunningly,

I smiled back and said nothing.

Endless hiking and shopping trips; to malls, to farmers’ markets, to high-end fashion stores. Various dining options to choose from. Zillions of conversations to hear or participate in. Millions of people to make friends with. Theaters, operas, cinemas, bookstores in every corner. This is how people imagine solo traveling to be. But behind all that glitter, there’s reality. Harsh reality.

Many Saudi female travelers would never confess how emotionally hard it can be to explore the world on their own. Especially when you are away for an extended period of time.  

These are three secrets no Saudi female solo-travelers will ever tell anyone:

1- After an accumulation of daily lemons of life, a woman needs a comforting hug. Things like dealing with a rude comment for being a Muslim or for wearing a head cover, or like not finding a taxi easily while carrying a lot of heavy bags, or even like looking at happy couples everywhere you go, can be draining at times. If you are a stranger, the easiest way will be holding a poster with “free hugs” in public. How will that work for a Muslim female solo-traveler?

If a man approaches to hug, she would/may not accept. Even if she does, she may end up with agonies of mind having done something she shouldn’t do from a religious perspective.

If she hugs a woman, that might be understood as a lesbian act. Something which she is not looking for at that point. 

If she hugs a child, that may look like harassment. 

It is complicated to hug others if you are a Saudi female.

2- The first few days of the travel are the most exciting days. That’s when you are at full gear to try all new things. By and by, you lose some of that spark. Things start to look ordinary. Daily tasks such as getting yourself food can become eventually boring.

At this point, you wish to be with a company. To be with someone who takes charge a little. To make you laugh when you suddenly feel homesick. To spoil you. All those acts of kindness will feel double as good than when are done at home.

 

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3- A Saudi Female solo traveler faces weird looks of many Saudis out there who think such a woman is given too much freedom to be allowed to wander. Such people thinks that a woman is naive by nature, and that she constantly needs a man to protect her from going astray! 

When a woman is determined to do something “morally” wrong, there is no power on earth that could stop her. She does not have to travel any distance to do that. She can do everything in front of a man without him even realizing it.

This article is not intended to discourage anybody from solo traveling. Solo traveling is a wonderful thing. But you have to be really brave to do it. 

It’s not about money or luxury places to go to. It is more than dealing with missing bags, getting lost, getting robbed, or walking next to big scary dogs all by yourself. Solo traveling is about embracing solitude fully and entirely and inventing new eyes to look at the world.

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22 thoughts on “Saudi female solo travelers won’t be telling you this!

  1. Reminds me of all the solitude some expats live with everyday. Nevertheless being able to harness solitude and to liberate one’s self from emotional dependence is one great life skill.

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  2. No woman believe in allah and the day of judgement travel a walking distance of one day with out a mahram ( a male guardian of a first degree relativ)

    Prophet Mohammad sala allah alayh wasallam

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    1. Thanks for your comment. Not all sayings taken after the prophet are verified to be originally his own. Nowadays a male mehram needs a mehram to make sure he won’t go astray if it is only about moral acts. From a moral perspective, both men and women can go astray when being away from religion, NOT away from home.

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  3. I think your posts are excellent. This isn’t about judging you (and if it was I would judge you as a modern, mature and open minded citizen, irrespective of gender) it is about you sharing your experiences and I think you do that in a really nice way.

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  4. Girl!
    First of all, I love you name. Loooove it (one of my students is called Noor too and I think I’ll call my daughter like that if God gives me this gift).
    Second, I love your bloooooog!
    Will be following you from now on… Go girl and keep it real like you do πŸ™‚
    Looking for people to follow my journey too… if you have a minute, feel free to stop by ❀
    Take care,

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  5. Wow! I never came across a Muslim woman as a Solo Traveler! Kudos to you and how exciting that you are beating the odds. My fiancee is a Muslim, I am not. Glad you left me a comment because this is an interesting post πŸ™‚

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  6. We have different definitions of solo travel. I assume you are talking about travelling outside one’s city/country?

    You would be surprised: a lot of North American women may have not travelled solo outside their city for 1 wk. or a few days, meaning staying at a hotel on their own, not with friends nor relatives.

    I’ve travelled solo for about 5 days at most in my life so far. Usually it has been 1-2 day conference with vacation days tacked on..in a different province or in the U.S. I live in Alberta Canada. But I fly frequently and wander around in other Canadian cities a lot solo for many hrs.

    I’m also a cyclist who uses bike as main mode of transportation: that alone promotes solo travel and exploration.

    Best wishes for future and for blogging!….and think of never hooking up with a guy who doesn’t want you to travel solo.
    My partner has no choice….since he himself has cycled solo across Canada while I work (he’s retired).

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    1. wow! Why is that!
      yes I have traveled solo. Alot. I think im done with solo traveling for more than 1 week max. Having a company is a necessity. I love people and the thing is not everyone everywhere is gonna talk to strangers easily. I like solo traveling. I just don’t love it. πŸ™‚

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  7. I’ve met university educated women in Canada who have barely travelled solo. They just like travelling with a friend or have children plus their full-time paid jobs. So their schedule at that time in life doesn’t permit that.

    I have had to learn travel solo at different times in life. Otherwise I will not learn about the world. I have several single female friends already in their 50’s and up. They bought and live in their own home, they travel outside of Canada or outside of their province (Canada is incredibly huge….8,000 km. from west to east with huge, huge tracts of pristine wilderness.)

    Later, you may find artistic inspiration to write ..when you travel more solo.

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      1. I’ll bet. My blog covers the cities where I’ve lived for a number of years and where I still visit because of family, friends. I actually keep my (used) bikes in Calgary, Toronto and Vancouver there to use. And I do use them when I’m there.

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  8. I enjoyed reading your perspective on this. Our individual cultural heritages makes us who we are, but also makes it difficult for people of other backgrounds to understand us sometimes. So, thank you. πŸ™‚

    PS… on a previous post, you mentioned Emojis — I think it’s unfair for such things to have been categorized as insouciance or inappropriate for a dedicated wife and mother. Joy is where you find it.

    Ψ£ΨͺΩ…Ω†Ω‰ Ω„Ωƒ Ω†Ω‡Ψ§Ψ±Ψ§ سعيد

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    1. Hello, thanks for stopping by! I was surprised by the Arabic greeting at the end! How cool that you know Arabic!
      It’s quite interesting getting to know about others’ different cultures. That makes us understand their inner talks most of the time πŸ™‚
      As for the emojis you’re right! I think our responsibility before the very beginning of any relationship is to understand ourselves. This will help us pick the right person for us, without the need to change her/him later on after marriage.
      Ψ£ΨͺΩ…Ω†Ω‰ Ω„Ωƒ ΩŠΩˆΩ…Ψ§Ω‹ Ψ³ΨΉΩŠΨ―Ψ§Ω‹ πŸ™‚

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