I kept looking for any logical reason. Anything that will explain. I couldn’t find any. We have been friends for over 4 years and we both know each other very well. So what happened?
“Look I know you are slightly disappointed, but let me explain” she started,
“Me unfollowing you has nothing to do with you. At all. It has everything to do with me.
The more snaps and posts I read for you, the narrower my knowledge of the “real” you, becomes.”
“The more we communicate through those social media apps, the less I feel the need to meet in life. Even a phone conversation has become rare. We have become more comfortable texting.”
“What do you mean?” I asked,
“Our communication has become lifeless.” She replied,
” I still don’t get the reason why you unfollowed me!” I raised my two eye brows as I uttered those words,
“Look, I’m not a follower to the journalist you. I’m not a follower to the writer you. I’m not like those people who hit “like” without bothering to read the words written, just to show some “fake” kind of support. I’m not a follower darling, I’m a friend”
“Seriously! So how are we friends then?” I interrupted sarcastically,
“I’m friends with your heart, with your soul. Not with your snaps or posts. All of that is virtual. It is not real. But hearts?”
Then she continued:
“You are not your posts just like what those people think.Those apps don’t define who you are.You have much more to that. I am friends with that part. The “much more” part. The part which your followers don’t know about. Why? Because it can be only felt through real life communication.”
End of the talk.
I honestly didn’t know if I felt happy or offended about the whole conversation.
I have always thought that people can recognize the real me through my posts. I always think of myself as spontaneous. In real life and social media I’m the same person. At least that’s what I think through sharing honest bits and pieces of my day to day life.
But I realized that all of that is not enough to know even 1% about the truth of the person. Any person.
People tend to categorize. Each person we encounter is either funny or serious, easy or difficult, black or white, this or that. Human nature is more complicated to be limited in two options.
We should always remember that each person has so many facets, angels and degrees of depth to their character. At different times. Shown to different people.
I don’t believe in virtual friendships. I believe in vibes. Those apps can not carry the vibes of the sender, but rather the receiver.
Its going through thick and thin together that actually makes you know how deep the connection is between two people. That is the touchstone. Everything else is nothing but a delusion.