A while ago, I started to follow a Saudi actress in Snapchat then I noticed that most of her chat was about losing weight. She would try hard all kinds of diets and any new techniques to shed whatever amount of fat she has; detoxing, LPG, green tea, 3 daily hours in the gym, drinking excessive amount of water, pills…you name it. Her goal was to reach size zero. By the way, she’s size 8.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not writing this post to question whatever goals she has. I am rather writing it to highlight the reason why she ,as many other teenage girls, now think that size zero is a symbol of feminism? (side note: she’s 30 years old. She is not a teenager!)
Let’s face it, a big number of women when deciding to put efforts to look thinner, they do so for one of two reasons; either to attract men, or to make other women jealous. They never do that as an act of showing more love and respect to their to their bodies and health.
So now other women are jealous of your bones. Then what?
I’m not talking about women who have eating disorders and are skinny for health-related reasons. My target is those women who look at their bodies in the mirror every morning with disgust. They think they will love their bodies once they shed that extra weight from here or there. That’s a delusion. They will never do.
If you can not accept your body shape, you will always look for flaws to focus on. You will be obsessed with your own version of physical perfection. Therefore, you will constantly be looking for outside validation to reaffirm your lost confidence in your looks.
Can such validation alter confidence that comes from within?
Unfortunately not. A broken self esteem will never be enough. Plus, not so many women can actually be happy for other women. If you lose weight and look fabulous, they will not tell you. They will however keep reminding you of how fat you “used to be” once.
I’m not promoting for obesity or over weight. I just believe that if you want to make a difference in your life on whatever level, please do so because it’s “you” who want that difference. Let the desire stem from the inside. Do not listen to anybody when they try to control how you should feel about your body size or weight.
You might believe that you are attractive while you’re size 16, while another woman might think that she’s fat while she’s size 10. Sizes do not matter. What matters is how you handle your sizes and reflect that into the world with grace. That’s the secret of being attractive.